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Got home.

Cried a little.

Will probably do it again tomorrow.

But as long as you keep going back, as long as you keep trying, as long as you show them that you aren’t giving up…it’s at least partially okay.

And I’m not going to say “it will get better” or “it will be okay” — because for some of these students, it won’t.  We aren’t a school.  They don’t have to come back.  In fact, for certain behaviors, we can’t LET them come back for periods of time or else the program could be shut down.

Some of their parents just do not care.  Some of them have no one in their lives that care about them, and even though we care about them we cannot allow them to act the way they do and still come.

Some of them change their behavior, because coming to the program is that important to them.  Because they have nowhere else to go.

Some of them don’t.  Some of them refuse to take personal responsibility.  What can we do, when they don’t want to learn, when no one else is reinforcing it?

I don’t know.  I don’t know if we’re really helping these kids.  I don’t know if we’re really teaching them anything.  I don’t know if we can, because there are so many other forces at work that are working against us.  Someone stole something last week in the club, and many of the kids, though they condemned it, said “What do you expect? It’s [town].  That’s what they’re teaching them.”

But we can be there.  We can come in every day.  We can hold them accountable in our space.  We can even try to hold them accountable after hours — we’ve had so many incidents of our kids disturbing the neighborhood this week that the policy has become, “If you loiter across the street once you sign out, you can’t come back for a day.”

We can try.

We can try.

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