Posts tagged lgbtq
Posts tagged lgbtq
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AKA, the site is up!Our first handful of posts and our brand new design just went live moments ago - and we are so excited to share it with you all! We will be working over the next few months (and then to infinity and beyond!) to continue to build the essays, advice, stories, and more, and to work out any and all of the tiny bugs that will arise in these first few weeks.We cannot thank all of you enough for supporting us and helping us begin this resource for so many parents who need guidance and support.Stay tuned as we add many new resources, and follow us on Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram!!
I’ve seen some of the material that’s on the site, and think it’s a helpful tool to have on hand for parents, youth, and other involved adults alike.
According to People magazine, Oklahoma teens Katie Hill and Arin Andrews, who are transgender and were in a relationship with each other during their transitions, will share their stories in two memoirs to be published Sept. 30, 2014, by Simon and Schuster Books for Young Readers. The book covers, revealed today, are above.
Katie Hill told People, "I don’t want this book to just appeal to transgender people or their allies. I want people to understand that there really is no such thing as normal."
Aaaaaaand while I do sponsor an LGBT club, I’m going even going to try to lend my straight voice to this discussion.
I’m going to throw this out to my LGBT readers to pipe in. I have some LGBT teacher followers that are out, so they can share their experiences.
Go, LGBT readers, go!
Cross posting to my main blog.
This is the kind of decision that is difficult to make before you get to that time and place, because everything has context, and because often we make plans but being in the spot to do them feels very different from what we’d imagined.
I’ve been in placements where there were other out teachers, even in a subtle way, and it wasn’t a big deal. I’ve also been in places in which I wasn’t allowed to use a picture book with same-sex parents in the grand scheme of a family unit in a class in which a child had two mommies. The places where we feel it is needed most can be the places where it is the most dangerous to us.
So here is my advice to you:
Get a feel for where you are.
Get to know your students.
Decide whether being out is a state of being for you or an action or event, and decide whether it is for you or for them.
If it’s an action or event, think about whether it’s necessary to your students’ getting to know you. Is it about the fact that you’re LGBTQ? Is it more that you want to be able to talk about a spouse without fear? Is it to be a role model or to be more open in general?
My advice would be — if you’re going to be out, make it a state of being and not an event. By that, I mean, do so through ways that feel natural to you and to the kids - by mentioning or having a photo of a spouse, by connecting to or talking about an experience that is relevant to them as your students. Does it have to be specifically about being LGBTQ? Not even. It could be about being called this or that or the emotions around hiding or coming out or learning who to trust — but it could also just as easily, just as easily be a matter of telling a story about a funny thing a partner did once, or how you totally relate to having a broken heart or wanting to talk to your girlfriend boyfriend etc. all the time in the halls because you want to talk to your girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/partner/etc. all the time too but everyone has to focus.
If you’re going to be out to your students, make it natural, and that will make it meaningful. It may not be something that even occurs to everyone right away but I can guarantee you that the students who need you will know, and that if there is ever a time where you need to pull off the glasses and the suit jacket and be the superhero in a moment of homophobia, transphobia, cis- or heterosexism, that you will be more ready if you are natural about who you are than if you either put it out first thing (where some students or parents or staff may read it as a political statement and, then, anything you say thereafter on the subject as such) or hide it entirely, unless you have to do so for your safety.
And that’s the other thing — put your safety at the forefront of your considerations. Please. We want you to work with your kids for a long time.
This is your annual PSA: coming out should be a personal choice — whether it’s when, to who, where, how, or why — and should be respected.
How can you celebrate National Coming Out Day?
Be proud of the ones you love if they are out today. Love them. Celebrate them.
Be proud of the ones you love if they are not out today. Love them. Celebrate them.
Be proud of the ones you love if they are out to some but not to others, if they are out at work but not at home or out to their parents but not to their uncles or aunts or out to their teachers but not to their Math Club or if their boss knows but their coworker doesn’t. Love them. Celebrate them.
Acknowledge that being out or not being out comes in a thousand shades and in-betweens, with more reasons for each than we can count, and that a person is neither good nor bad for any one of them.
Have conversations with yourself and others about how we can all create environments in which people feel safe being who they are.
Do not disrespect people who don’t feel they can, or have to, or want to, be out. Take issue with conditions that make it unsafe for those to do so, whether the risk is losing friends and family, losing housing, losing jobs, losing a feeling of physical safety, or losing one’s life.
For many people, being “out” is an act of bravery. For many others, being “out” is not an option. For some it is just a natural state of being and for others it’s a nonsequitor to the rest of themselves.
Never sacrifice an individual for the sake of their struggle; give them love, support, and understanding to aid in it.
On National Coming Out Day, celebrate progress, think about how to work toward making it safer for those who aren’t out to be so if that’s what they want, and above all, respect people regardless of whether they are or aren’t.
LGBTQ youth! Have you taken GLSEN’s 2013 National School Climate Survey? Did you know that it’s the only national survey to examine the educational experiences of LGBTQ youth, and that it’s used to inform education policymakers and the public about the right of all students to be treated with respect? Learn why it’s so important in this video, and please take the survey now! www.glsen.org/2013survey
Please help spread the word about this survey!
Hey all —
If you’re LGBTQ and in school and you’re reading this, if you feel comfortable doing so, please take this survey. I can vouch for the fact that educators, administrators, researchers, rights advocates, and mental health professionals alike — sometimes even politicians and related groups, individuals, and institutions — often look to this survey for a picture of the school experience and environment for students who are LGBTQ.
They may not know what’s really happening if people don’t tell them.
So, again, if you feel comfortable doing so, go ahead and follow the link. It’s one of a few different regular surveys from a few different organizations that lead to reports that are meant to help us make positive changes in our schools (and other environments) for people who are LGBTQ.
First of all, kudos for taking that leadership position AND that initiative. It’s a tricky one that involves tackling a lot of potentially sensitive issues, and not everyone is up for that challenge.
Leadership and initiative are always good qualities, and ones to highlight on a resume. However, as you said, no matter how proud we are of who we are and what we’ve done and what we’ve stood for, we need to recognize — whether with preventative action or just bracing for the consequences — that not everyone will appreciate it.
I have three separate resumes:
Some people may be wondering why you’d even apply in a situation where you can’t put this on your resume and be “honest” — but there are so many misconceptions, prejudices, and discomforts, especially still in the teaching field. While planning for and teaching about diversity in the classroom in general is something to be encouraged, there are many out there that feel that even considering LGBTQ populations in all this means that someone is out to “convert” the children or destroy religious and cultural institutions or a whole host of other things. And, while someone may be dedicated to supporting all students of all backgrounds, highlighting work with topics of sexuality and gender sometimes seems to send the message that this is your overarching “agenda,” even when that is not the case.
Above all, do your research before you apply anywhere, just like you would with any other issues to see if somewhere is a good fit. If the school you’re applying to has a GSA or similar organization already, it might be safe to keep similar clubs as-is on your resume. If you think it might be a touchy subject in general — and/or it isn’t necessarily something others might think would (or “should,” though that’s a whole other subject) come up in your position (for example, there is a general misconception that LGBTQ issues shouldn’t come up at the early elementary level because it means you’re talking about sex for some reason) — or the district or area has a spotty record with issues regarding the LGBTQ community, try something more neutral.
And, if there are legal battles over questionably-fired staff or turned heads over anti-LGBTQ bullying, weigh your decision carefully. For some people, that reads as a challenge, an opening to really “make a difference” to youth who may need support in a hostile environment. For others, it may read as too hostile to risk, or too much to work against as one person on the inside, or more than they would be able to cope with. Everyone is different, and there is absolutely no shame in knowing that you are one or the other.
It took me a surprisingly long time to process the DOMA decision, in part because I wanted to remind myself that it was only one step of a large process and didn’t address a lot of the more immediate needs of the LGBTQ community, but also because…it honestly seemed almost too good to be true, it was so big and so impactful in a lot of ways itself.
But since that was an unfortunate oversight when I’m usually a big advocate and voice for these things, I’m keeping an open ask-box not only for the usual school-related issues, but additionally and especially for anything LGBTQ-related, whether it’s educational or general advice, from students or teachers or anybody. This includes personal questions about myself, a gender-wonky lesbian youth-worker/teacher-turned-mental-health-clinician and aspiring counselor/therapist. I’ve even turned on anonymous, which is a little anxiety-inducing, but we’ll call it a grand experiment.
Because of the holiday in the US, I’ll try leaving anon open for…about a week, and we’ll see how it goes. Answers will include references or helpful resources as needed. Feel free to reblog if you know someone who might have an ask!
I’ll also consider answering (additionally) with video if it’s requested and/or if I get some good batches.
Same-sex marriage (top) and acceptance of homosexuality (bottom) around the world.
I know that this is likely a comparison for the sake of this specific comparison, and that some things are far easier to put into measurable data than others, or at least remotely accurate or reliable data.
But I want to point something out here.
In these images we’re looking at acceptance as measured by survey and marriage. Not evictions. Not physical violence. Not deaths. Granted these things are, as I mentioned, far less easy or certain to measure in some respect, since if someone lives in a place where people believe homosexuality should be punished by death there may not exactly be anyone counting how many people are beaten or murdered for that exact reason.
But we’re perpetuating that the only way to look at acceptance of homosexuality, or at least the best way to do so, is marriage. And so we’re helping to create a population of people who may believe that marriage is the most important issue facing LGBTQ populations, as opposed to basic safety — and, in fact, that we’re beyond needing to worry about issues of basic safety. My own friends and family have on occasion expressed shock and disbelief that we might still have to worry about being fired or evicted or abused because of who we are. Because it’s all about marriage, right? We’re there!
We’re not there yet. We’re closer. We’re better than we were in some places and in some respects. But do not let these images, this focus, these statistics, make you think that everything is fine and that our biggest issue is marriage. It’s not.
Thought this might also be relevant to the education side -
because there are teachers still afraid being themselves will destroy their careers and students still afraid being themselves will destroy their school years
and for discussion in classes lucky or daring enough to have those discussions.
(I’ve been in two of the three of these groups, and it’s not the ones I’d have wanted at the time.)
I recently decided to be a teacher, but I also identify as agender. I was wondering if you could help me out by answering a few questions. These include:How do you identify yourself?ex. genderqueer, femme, avid reader, left handed, tall, tough, sparkly, gender creative, gay, fun,…
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These are some great questions. If folks like me follow folks like me, go on and give it a click through. And if you aren’t in this category, click through and read anyway, to get an idea of all the extras we have to think about on the daily.
And in general…let’s be there for each other. Because for some people this might be a non-issue, while for others it might make the experience more difficult.
They’ve found a way to make a horrible idea even worse.
Well. This is terrible.
This breaks all boundaries.
There is so little and so much to say about something like this all at once, and I’m saddened and stunned and incredibly concerned.
Those of us who don’t live in Tennessee can hope this dies a quick death. Those who do: Call. Your. Lawmakers.
And now that I think about it, I was lying; those of us who don’t live in Tennessee CAN do something about this politically (aside from educating ourselves to be sure that we never fall prey to terrible ideas like any of these): we can still call all of our elected officials and ask them, "Is ____ familiar with the ‘Don’t Say Gay’ bill, SB 234, in Tennessee? I just wanted to call and let ____’s office know that if he/she/they were ever to draft or support a similar measure in my state, I would never be voting for them again."
Make your voice heard. Flood the phones.
And just to reiterate how out of touch Senator Campfield is about any of these issues, he also thinks that, “bullying thing is the biggest lark out there,” in regards to LGBTQ teen suicide, and claims that it is, “virtually, not completely, but virtually impossible to contract AIDS through heterosexual sex.”
This is what happens when we put bigots in office, everyone. Forgot being knowledgeable or looking at facts and statistics (or, in the case of AIDS, even the most basic information - this is why real sex education is important) — some people can rely on old-fashioned hate to make any claims they want. And the most frightening thing is, people believe them.